Have you ever said something with the best intentions, and realized as it escaped your lips that it was probably the stupidest thing you ever said?
I have done this many times, but I don’t think any of them have been as bad as this time.
A co-worker brought her four year old nephew into work with his mom (her sister) recently. Her sister moved to the area recently and I asked his mom if she was going to get him enrolled in school soon. She made a comment like “With all of his other issues, school is the last thing I want to think about right now.”
A few days later I was talking to my co-worker and I asked her if her nephew was having problems in school, referring to the comment by her sister. She wanted to know what kind of problems, and I asked if he was learning disabled.
I really was only going by what the mom said, and I asked with the best intentions.
I used to teach headstart… I was hoping to give the family some resources if this was a problem for them, especially being new to the area and all.
I have relatives who suffer from dyslexia and other various learning disabilities. I grew up around various learning disabilities and it never was something to be ashamed of. I never regarded them as stupid or dumb… I feel people who suffer from such disabilities are smarter than most of us without disabilites. Learning disabled have to overcome twice what I do in order to function in normal society. I have the utmost respect for those who suffer from learning disabilities.
My co-worker became seriously offended because she felt that I was referencing that her nephew was stupid. That comment actually offended me, but I was so busy trying to apologize that I never was able to let her know that I was offended as well.
I am very sorry for making the comment. I am horrified that people relate learning disabled to being stupid. Before today I never made that connection. Maybe I am the weird one.
Tonight our pastor had a sermon on Pride…. and I realized once again God was reminding me that I need to stop being so caught up in myself and serve others.
I will just hang out in this corner, sucking on my toes…. because my foot is deeply embedded in my mouth.
[image source: Diet Survivors Meditation]